Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Forgiveness. Letting Go.



Forgiveness is an interesting topic.




A year or two back we had a thread on a Facebook group about this
that cemented my relationship with one of the members who had
been Pro-Forgiveness. A remarkable young man he posted about
his abusive relationship with his father and how he had been he felt,
forced to deal with forgiving his father for his own peace of mind, and
to make good his life and focus on positive things that were within
his control to do. He wrote of how he had looked at himself in the
mirror one day and said "Enough!". And he forgave. For himself, he
forgave those who had caused him pain. Which is not to say that he
condoned what they did... but he forgave them anyway.

This young man passed away just a few months after he posted this
story.

The notion of Forgiving can be very emotive for many of us,
simply because it does not happen in isolation. Our regard for others
with whom forgiveness may be an issue can be complex. It can
harbour identity issues about

who they are
who we are
what it would mean if we forgave them
what it would mean if we stopped feeling bad
what it would mean if we 'let them get away with it'
what it would mean if we forgot our grievance
what it would mean if we did not have that experience
what life would be like now if we started over without that pain

Essentially, forgiveness is the often just the first step.
After forgiveness, what then?

What will we do differently?
How will we view life now?
What actions will we take now?

One of the presuppositions of NLP, is this.
"People are doing the best they can with the resources available"

What this speaks to, is that we have resources that we need to do
whatever it is that we need to do. Sometimes we have trouble
believing that, because we are overwhelmed or just plain don't know how
to access those inner resources.

Sometimes we have to forgive ourselves first, in order to gain the
use of our own resources, that we need to consider forgiving others.


An interesting topic for sure.






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Monday, April 13, 2009

How To Hire A Virtual Assistant




Best Results Working With Your VA

Whenever someone in business thinks about hiring some help, it often follows a process something like this:


1 They don't get stuff done that needs to be done. (This can continue for a LONG time!)

2 They are pushed to a point of hiring someone and can't avoid it any longer

3 Obsess for a long time, wondering how they will pay for it

4 End up putting on the first person that turns up to help (even if they have no appropriate skills)

5 Discover the surprise that things get done which used to be left undone

6 Wonder how they got along without help

7 Continue like that not knowing how good (or how bad) it's really working (no way to measure)

In every case I've seen, getting help has resulted in the ability to do more and scale the business in a way that doing everything oneself, just doesn't allow. It doesn't matter what business you are in, it works just the same.

So what does the other side of this look like?

It happens that I've quite a few Virtual Assistants (VAs) in my network and
so I know that while they are willing to do what they do and help where they
can, making that happen with the people who really need what they do, isn't always that straightforward.

Really, what the clients often need, is a coaching session first - to determine what, out of that mess of ideas they have spinning around their head - it is they need help to do.

It is very easy to get what you want when you know what it is.

Knowing precisely What You Want, on the other hand, can be devilishly difficult!

Knowing what you need, will depend on the outcomes that you want to achieve.


These desired outcomes we want, have to fit within a broader context and that means understanding:


Where you are now.

Where you want to be.

How to get there.


Again, it seems simple. And it is.

It just isn't necessarily easy.

Well, it can be easy... if you know how.


So here it is -


If you think you need help, you probably do.

If you think you don't need help... you probably do.


Of course, that depends if you really are growing a business.  If you are just playing at it, you probably don't need help.

So if you are looking to hire help, be very clear on what it is that you
want to achieve as a result, then work backwards from there.


Tips For Starting With Your Virtual Assistant

Be clear on what you want done.

Don't expect your VA to tell you what you need done.
That sets up a bad dynamic and puts you in a passive position
and that's NOT what you want to be as you run your business.
Be Active and take responsibility for your results.

Be clear on what skills the VA possesses

Don't hire a bookkeeper to do your multi media presentations.
And please don't hire your web designer to do your books!

Since you are only paying for what gets done, then think about what roles you need help in.

Some category example:

BackOffice: Accounting and book work, typing, transcription

Front Office: Customer relationship management, social media

Scheduling Concierge: Calendar management, travel arrangements, co-ordinating personal stuff.

Events management: Setting up conferences and the like

Marcom Production: Marketing and communications production. Brochures, presentations, advertisements etc


Web: design, blogs, affiliate programs, shopping carts set up and the like.

Make your VA an integral part of your action plan.

Organize your business and your marketing efficiently,
and ensure that your VA's work adds to your efficacy
and your ability to meet your business goals.

Write down your Action Plan and your VA's Duties

Get those ideas out of your head and onto paper. While the
ideas live only inside your head
, they are worthless!
Be clear with them what you expect Your VA to do, and
if you need to, how you want them to do it. Make sure they
have the competencies to be able to fulfill that requirement.
Make sure you have been SPECIFIC with them!


Communicate!

Give clear instructions. Give good respectful feedback.

Have a process for managing performance of the VA and
be accessible when you are meant to be accessible.
Don't hide and withdraw if they do something not to your
satisfaction. Get the communication channels open and
be honest. Expect honesty from them. But don't tolerate
over familiarity or disrespect.

Do What You Say You Will Do.

Return calls or emails. Your VA is not your mother!
It isn't the job of a VA to run after you, so don't
act like a kid who needs a wet-nurse!

If you tell the VA that you will do something in
preparation for what they need from you to go on with a task,
DO IT!.

Budget For Your VA

This is an essential part of your business. Make sure
you have budgeted the funds for your Virtual Assistant.
This is your responsibility so attend to it and don't make
your VA wait for payment, you will get no loyalty that way.
Don't end up being the deadbeat client on the next Twitter message you see.

Monitor Your Progress

Make sure you measure just how far you have come since you
started using your VA. If you have been using them for some
months, you should be able to see how your business has
benefited and be able to track the capacity you have in
your business now as a direct result of that activity. Check
this every week and every month and review formally at regular
intervals. Don't let this just coast, make every week count.

There are some ideas to get you started. Simple, and if you need help to do it right... Get it!


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Thursday, April 09, 2009

Creativity It's Good For YOU

I found this rather nice presentation on Creativity (Yes, Creativity is available to everyone! - even YOU) and thought I'd share it here.

Maybe it is something in the air. I was loaned a copy of The Artist's Way last week by a good friend and colleague (as it happens a very creative woman who is doing some remarkable work on producing products for business buyers and sellers, but more on that later!) The subtitle of The Artist's Way is - A Course In Discovering And Recovering Your Creative Self.

Must be that time of the year...




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Saturday, April 04, 2009

Your Selection Criteria. What's Most Important?

Did you know, we all have a Selection Criteria. In other words, a list of elements that we either consciously, or mostly without realising it, work through when we make a selection, or a decison. We choose this - but not that - based on what meets the satisfaction of the criterion against which we are checking.

This is a handy thing to know, as it allows us to learn to know our own mind better and to have an understanding of why we do what we do, and make the choices we make, and moreover, it allows us, if our usual strategy is yielding results not in line with those we would prefer, to find a better strategy and use that. Copy the strategy of someone we know makes good decisions that we admire, or work out a strategy that is more in line with our own core values. (Here's the sticky part: You need to know what they are!).

For some people, a priority in making a purchase might be overwhelmingly a visual criteria - it must look 'right' in respect to style, colour, shape, etc. Yet others may need to know that it is nice to touch, or has a texture or finish that is as desired, or it may (as in my case), need to fit a range of things, revolving form, function, and technical specifications. For others, they don't know but it just Feels Like The Right Thing.

For yet other people it is nothing to do with the object for purchase, so much as The Thrill Of The Bargain! Here's a demonstration, of an individual who is well understanding of what his primary selection driver is: Price.

Is price alone a good basis for selection? It is certainly a popular one! Many people will make all kinds of decisions based on price alone. You be the judge.






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Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Can I Afford A Business Coach?

I was asked a question today on another forum and thought I'd add it to this blog, since it is a question of a general nature and is one that I believe many people - especially now - may be wondering.

Please add your comments if you feel so inclined.

Feedback as always, is appreciated.



Q

How does a business that is trying to fight our terrible economy afford a business coaches services.



A

In reply to your question, I've pondered this for some time because I think it deserves a well-considered answer.

You are right, it is a terrible economic time that we are now in. And it will continue to be so for quite a long time to come. This is not a negatve comment by either you or me, simply an observation. It is well that we prepare for what is coming and do what we can to get through this.

Make no mistake though. Some people, and some businesses, as they have in every other recession, will do well in this downturn. Who that will be remains to be seen.

Business owners work with a coach, not because they want to work with a coach, but because they want to achieve something that they have been unable to do alone.

So one way to rephrase your question might be to ask:


How does a business afford:



A systemized business that works at peak efficiency.

Operational procedures that are documented and ensure that anyone in the business can know how to do that task.

A clear vision for the business that everyone within the business understands and is working to achieve.

Good control of the financial elements of the business

A business plan that incorporates an overall strategy for the business and includes

A marketing plan and a customer service system for delivery and operational plan that ensures that output is maximized.

Comprehensive management practices that ensure good recruiting, training and performance management of employees.

A concise understanding of the value of the business - and tuned to achieve maximum 'sale-ready' potential return.



To name a few items.


My question is this.


In good times, but especially in terrible economic times...

How does a business afford NOT to have these?





In answer to your second question, yes, there is always "more than one way to skin a cat!" ;-)

I'm currently considering a few ideas as to how to make a low cost option available for some small groups. I'd be happy to discuss this with anyone interested working through some ideas on how we might do that.

For a no cost option, this is basically why I started TeamCircle to provide assistance to my network in the fastest and easiest way that I know to make myself accessible. There is help there to all who ask for it.

Of course coaching comes in a range of prices and indeed, a range of services provided. The price may depend on the scope of the work required. For some, one-off items like marketing letters and the like, might be a start to more formal coaching.

Either way, the first step is to take a step. Ask some questions.

I met with a new client today, who sells bottled spring water (water-cooler type) He told me that customers are suprised at how little it costs. Business coaching is a bit like that. If you can engage a coach for a period of say, three months - the cost over a year may be quite modest.

And who knows. Maybe there is room to Request A Deal. ;-)



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Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Sell Your Blood Or Improve Your Business?

A somewhat disturbing item and rather styled as one of those 'Only In America' stories this morning was the broadcast on ABC radio bringing us the news of the great increase in people searching online for websites offering advice on How To Sell Your Blood For Money. We are told that this can be lucrative with long term capacity for picking up a cool $40 - $50 per week if one is inclined to donate blood twice a week.

As a means of regular financial support, I can only think that this has definite limitations as an ongoing strategy.

Of course in Australia, we have no such entrepreneurial opportunity, since blood donations are made freely with no recompense, aside from a glass of orange juice and a warm and fuzzy feeling of having contributed to society. A pay-it-forward gesture perhaps, with the hope that others may do the same one day and help those that we love who may be caught in circumstances where the precious fluid is most needed.

The news made me wonder though, not for the first time, just what it takes for some people in business to take a hard look at their business and really assess what it is that they are not doing in their business, that the business needs to have done, to make it as successful and profitable - and of the highest value possible - that they can.

Getting business owners to look at their business objectively can seem to be harder than getting them to squeeze blood from a stone.

What about you? What's your 'last resort' action when it comes to getting some action in your business?



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Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Steps To Creating an Achievable Outcome



Setting goals is not difficult but it does require a good strategy that looks at the overall ecology of the goal (will I create more problems for myself or others if I get this) and in terms of being realistic, (able to be achieved with the resources and skills currently available) and accountable (deadline and consequences of not following-through.)

The following questions assist in ensuring an outcome is well-formed, and ecological (positive in all ways that impact your life).

Consider the goals that you want to set for yourself and achieve, both in the short and medium as well as long term. Make this a habit, to ask yourself these questions about any goal that you set for yourself, indeed, these may apply to many decisions that we make too.

 What specifically do you want? (state in positive terms.)

 Where are you now?

 What will you see, hear, fee, etc, when you have it?

 How will you know when you have it?

 What will this outcome get for you or allow you to do?

 Is it only for you?

 Where, when, how, and with whom do you want it?

 What do you have now, and what do you need to get your outcome?

 For what purpose do you want it?

 What will you gain or lose if you have it?

 What will happen if you get it?

 What won't happen if you get it?

 What will happen if you don't get it?

 What won't happen if you don't get it?



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